Question by hello123: my boyfriend has a gambling problem.. should i help him get help or let him take care of it on his own ?
yes he admitts he has a problem but dont know if he will really go get help ??
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Answer by peaches6
See if he’ll accept your help. If not, you’ll be fighting a losing battle and he’ll take you down with him. Good Luck!
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Help him, if your serious about this relationship,this will become your problem too
You can’t help a person who doesn’t want it. Sad, but true.
If he can admit that he needs help, then you need to help him. If he could take care of things by himself, he wouldn’t have a problem.
There is probably a support group, such as Gambler’s Anonymous, in you area. Local religious organizations and licensed councellors may also be able to help.
help him
first he has to want to get help.. that would be the first step
and just be there for him if he does
Should you help your BF? Well of course you should if you have any feelings for him. Addictions are difficult to deal with and he can use all the help and support you can give.
If he’s not interested in getting help just offer your assistance and support. You can help him contact the appropriate people that can help him. certainly, if he refuses help and gets worse over a long period your relationship may be damaged and eventually end. but that’s not what you indicate in your question.
It does not matter what the problem is. Until he or she, see they have a real problem. And they want help. Otherwise it will do no good. The are AA Programs for the gambling bug. However they don’t work unless the person really want to quite.
There is a old saying; You can lead a jackass to water; but you cannot make it drink! Its has to want to drink. Before it will drink. The harder you push. The more it will push away.
So your problem is to get him to want to go and get help. Gambling is a sickness. And it has to be work on as a sickness of the mind. A person has to have will power to walk away.
Gambling is not willy that bad. If a person does it for fun. And has the spare funds to do it. It willy becomes a problem when they go pass the extra money. They go to gambling than the ones they love.
Likewise it is not a good idea to make a person chore; you or the gabling. It is pushing. And most of the time you will push him or her away from you.
Ash him questions. Why he does not want to get help. Take it from there. One step at a time. Other words you are letting him take him self in to getting help. But don’t push him.
He will never help himself unless you help him. If you choose to stay with him…which I do not suggest….have him give YOU his paycheck to pay bills, gas, food…etc. The only way to help him is for him to “relearn” the value of his cash. Also, have access to his checking account as he will utilize the “paycheck loan” system which is certain financial disaster for a problem gambler. If he disagrees…or agrees and continues to find cash to gamble…(borrowing money from friends)….then I suggest you get far away. One day it will be your mortgage payment(s).